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Cassandra Grey’s Guide to the good life at home.


Written ByCASSANDRA GREY
Photography ByDREW ESCRIVA

I was born at home, in four hours with a midwife, on 18th Street and Guerrero in San Francisco during the hippy era. We moved shortly thereafter and I went on to live in nine more homes in nine more towns by the time I was twelve. We didn’t have much growing up, but my mother always made each home feel like home. While zip codes changed, the garden, the home-cooked meals, the Joni Mitchell records, the art, and the literature all stayed the same. In every new home, my mother let me decorate my room, and to this day in true double Aries fashion, I am constantly rearranging the furniture and upgrading the sheets and towels. In Marlene Dietrich’s book Marlene Dietrich’s ABC, under A for Aries, she wrote: “Aries women like to change positions of furniture ad infinitum. So if you are married to an Aries woman, forgive her.” I say all of this in an effort to garner your trust as I impart my wisdom on how to live the good life—at home.

Contrary to what you may think, the good life at home isn’t exclusively reserved for the rich and famous. In fact, most of the rich and famous people I know don’t get to spend much time at home unless of course they find themselves smack dab in the middle of a pandemic. They tend to live their lives on the road relying on hotels and tour buses to provide room service, sheets, and towels. All that said, money does come in handy, but is not a prerequisite to making a house a home. Here are five things you can do to elevate your living experience and environment right now. You can invest a little or a lot, this is up to you, just don’t compromise on your taste. It’s all we can really own.


SCORE YOUR SOUNDTRACK

Create playlists for your morning, day, and night routines. Start by setting your alarm to the song you want stuck in your head all day. Currently, mine is “Easy (Like Sunday Morning)” by the Commodores. If you, like me, don’t know how to make a playlist, shack up with a DJ (also like me) or simply go to Samantha Ronson’s Spotify profile to subscribe to playlists for days.

ALWAYS HAVE PIE

Invest in a classic cake stand and always have pie—store-bought or homemade—displayed on your kitchen counter. Even if you don’t eat pie, just have it there. It will make you happy and will last as long as flowers. I am currently having pies delivered from goldbelly.com, which if you don’t know, is a gourmet purveyor of foods and treats of all kinds. It is keeping our favorite restaurants alive all across the country, by enabling customers to have almost anything delivered from mom and pop restaurants and bakeries within 24 hours.

READ BOOKS

I know reading isn’t as popular with the kids now, but books are still cool. For most of us, traveling isn’t an option at the moment, so try cuddling up on the couch with a good book. All the best trips I’ve taken have come from inside a paperback. I love New York, and when I can’t get there, I read Edie, An American Biography by Jean Stein and George Plimpton. Side note: Consider “Paperback Writer” by Bob Dylan for your literary soundtrack.

MASTER AT-HOME TURNDOWN SERVICE

I can’t tell you what a difference upgrading your sheets and towels will make. If you can invest in the best, go to yvesdelorme.com. A more affordable, high-quality option is brooklinen.com. At the very least, invest in an ironing board and iron or a handheld steamer to freshen up what you have. There is no better feeling than getting into a beautifully-made bed with crisp sheets! (Well, maybe wrapping oneself in a fluffy towel just out of the dryer.) Lastly, if all that sounds exhausting, invest in a beautiful linen spray.

MAKE IT VIOLET

I know if you are reading this, you are probably one of our beloved customers, who is fully aware that we edit the best products across all categories—skin care, makeup, hair care, wellness, sexual wellness, bath & body, devices, and fragrance. I can tell you that all of our products have the power to help you achieve the good life at home. But if I had to pick a few absolute Violet Code Approved must-haves for your home, below are the 10 I would start with. Thank you to our loyal customers and anyone considering making your first purchase on VIOLET GREY. My 36-person dream team and I absolutely love what we do and we are so grateful to get to do it for you—the best customers in the world. We are especially grateful for your support during this time, as are the beauty brands we recommend here:

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Speaking of the dream vacations we can’t take, this insanely luxurious candle made of the botanical scents of the Amazon rainforest is the next best thing. The warm and woodsy aroma comes from white and black resin, ingredients long used indigenously to balance the sixth chakra and reduce stress. It is expensive, but larger than your average candle and lasts 60 hours.

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I long admired this oversized hand wash on instagram #shelfies. In Rose, Suede and Vetyver there is something for every scent palette. Whenever we do a #VioletVanity overhaul and upgrade, we always replace the hand wash and hand lotion in the powder room with the gorgeous set from Byredo.

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For the ultimate at-home facial, consider giving yourself a cryo treatment from the comfort of your bed. This tool is the genius invention of celebrity facialist to the stars, Georgia Louise. They tighten, depuff, refresh and calms inflamed skin on contact, so it’s especially good during allergy season.

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Been washing your hands a bit more than usual? Consider this miracle exfoliating peel that sloughs away dry skin to reveal radiant, refreshed, and younger-looking hands. We can’t seem to keep this product in stock. Get yours while supplies last.

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This literally translates to: In my bed, which is what everyone will want to climb into upon smelling it. Made of half turkish rose essence and half rose water essential, there is no chicer linen spray in the world. Spritz it on your pillows and towels as an essential step in your turndown service.

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A wax-based candle with a seductive scent (sandalwood with hints of citrus) that doubles as a lover’s massage oil. Pairs well with a blindfold and one of those late-night playlists.

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If you don’t care for wrinkles, I suggest incorporating silk into your sleep routine. Silk fibers reduce friction and creasing in your skin, prevent bed head, and extend the life of the blowout you tried to DIY.

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Like gorgeous fresh magnolias in a bottle. And the clever utilitarian packaging literally makes me trigger happy. I spray every room in the house, including my bathroom and my car (which doubles as my new conference room).

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If you follow me on Instagram, you know that I Iove this device and have even suggested that it is the Rolls Royce of toothbrushes. This fine piece of engineering was invented by the strikingly tall and handsome cosmetic dentist, Dr. Michael Apa, in New York City. I love it so much that it’s become my go-to gift for those who have everything.